Ever wonder how two people can go through the exact same event and they tell you two completely different stories? We always assume that someone isn't telling the truth, but I'm learning that the way people perceive things are different. You can have a situation with two different stories because no two people are alike, we internalize, process and react differently than each other. I'm sure you've seen the demonstration of a glass filled half of water sitting on a table and the demonstration is that a pessimistic person would say the glass is half empty while a optimismist would say it's half full. Then you have the opportunist comes along and drink it because he saw opportunity. That demonstration has really shaped the way I look at people and situations in life.
There are people who have been victims of life that remain a victim and in my book categorized as a "victim of a victim" they represent the pessimist that life is awful because awful things happened and the rest of the world needs to make life right for them and handout because they were a victim of life. They swallow themselves in desperate situations because that's where they gain the most comfort and pity. Self destructive is what it is. Don't misunderstand my words, when somebody is a victim they go through phases of healing and transition to move on that's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about staying in the victim role and using it as an excuse as to how awful life is and how people should treat them because of their event. They want a better life but will never get it as long as people are catering to their needs because they don't have the desire for things to be different deep down or they would take initiative to do so. Depression and Satan plays a huge part in this as our thought process is tormented, however, I find this victim role most in new believers or non believers. I call it the "eeyore syndrome" from Eeyore on Winnie the Pooh and relate it to the song "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms" song. Literally this song and poor Eeyore goes on in my mind when I'm talking to these people. They literally can drain the life out of you over time, but you keep trying to be the hero....Stop! Be a prayer warrior and let God be the hero!
I like the optimismist role a little better because it shows an inner desire to make things better and these are the people willing to give life another shot. They work, they believe and they have faith. But be careful those beliefs and faith are the first items off the list if they fall off the horse and the victim thoughts come back to haunt them. They get better with time and eventually get back on the saddle, but usually repeat the process over and over to a point where they are exhausted and frustrated with life because they try so hard, but nothing ever seems to work out so more times than others they throw in the towel and begin the blame game. The blame game is they "tried everything but things never worked out because of someone else." It's always somebody's else's fault or they would have succeeded. I call it the "runner up" syndrome. Never is the spotlight on me, I'm just the runner up....but if that girl wouldn't have been there or that judge woulda coulda shoulda. You get my point. These people continue to run the hampster wheel of life but never seem to get anywhere stable to stop, they are running so fast trying to make things better that they forget to enjoy what and where they already are.
LOVE the opportunitist!!!! These people inspire us so much that we see stage lights and dollar signs when really that's what they are enjoying. These people have been victims in life's tragedies but after healing and in the process they have decided and embraced that they could use their situations to help others instead of living in self pity and/or shoulda coulda wouldas, they are out making things happen and living the most successful and happiest lives that this life has to offer. They get it! The light switch is on that we all go through events, setbacks, tragedies and disappointments some bigger than others. To win the game of life you play the cards that are dealt and you can choose to fold, play the game or win, but cheaters never succeed. You can choose your destiny simply by changing the way you perceive life and dream big. When you learn that God has a plan and purpose for you, you begin to embark on an adventure. God designs us differently so that when we work together in his glory, the parts of his body are complete therefore they function correctly in which we then find favor. Don't use disappointments to destroy and torment your life...don't quit, find purpose and how you can use your circumstances to better yourself or someone else. We are all different and no two people are alike, but we go through the same things as someone else in this world so that we grow, find common ground and then learn from each other. Open your eyes to the way you perceive things and be willing to change it if it's not working out for you. Give it a shot, I believe your life will change as you find favor with God for doing his will for you.
There are people who have been victims of life that remain a victim and in my book categorized as a "victim of a victim" they represent the pessimist that life is awful because awful things happened and the rest of the world needs to make life right for them and handout because they were a victim of life. They swallow themselves in desperate situations because that's where they gain the most comfort and pity. Self destructive is what it is. Don't misunderstand my words, when somebody is a victim they go through phases of healing and transition to move on that's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about staying in the victim role and using it as an excuse as to how awful life is and how people should treat them because of their event. They want a better life but will never get it as long as people are catering to their needs because they don't have the desire for things to be different deep down or they would take initiative to do so. Depression and Satan plays a huge part in this as our thought process is tormented, however, I find this victim role most in new believers or non believers. I call it the "eeyore syndrome" from Eeyore on Winnie the Pooh and relate it to the song "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms" song. Literally this song and poor Eeyore goes on in my mind when I'm talking to these people. They literally can drain the life out of you over time, but you keep trying to be the hero....Stop! Be a prayer warrior and let God be the hero!
I like the optimismist role a little better because it shows an inner desire to make things better and these are the people willing to give life another shot. They work, they believe and they have faith. But be careful those beliefs and faith are the first items off the list if they fall off the horse and the victim thoughts come back to haunt them. They get better with time and eventually get back on the saddle, but usually repeat the process over and over to a point where they are exhausted and frustrated with life because they try so hard, but nothing ever seems to work out so more times than others they throw in the towel and begin the blame game. The blame game is they "tried everything but things never worked out because of someone else." It's always somebody's else's fault or they would have succeeded. I call it the "runner up" syndrome. Never is the spotlight on me, I'm just the runner up....but if that girl wouldn't have been there or that judge woulda coulda shoulda. You get my point. These people continue to run the hampster wheel of life but never seem to get anywhere stable to stop, they are running so fast trying to make things better that they forget to enjoy what and where they already are.
LOVE the opportunitist!!!! These people inspire us so much that we see stage lights and dollar signs when really that's what they are enjoying. These people have been victims in life's tragedies but after healing and in the process they have decided and embraced that they could use their situations to help others instead of living in self pity and/or shoulda coulda wouldas, they are out making things happen and living the most successful and happiest lives that this life has to offer. They get it! The light switch is on that we all go through events, setbacks, tragedies and disappointments some bigger than others. To win the game of life you play the cards that are dealt and you can choose to fold, play the game or win, but cheaters never succeed. You can choose your destiny simply by changing the way you perceive life and dream big. When you learn that God has a plan and purpose for you, you begin to embark on an adventure. God designs us differently so that when we work together in his glory, the parts of his body are complete therefore they function correctly in which we then find favor. Don't use disappointments to destroy and torment your life...don't quit, find purpose and how you can use your circumstances to better yourself or someone else. We are all different and no two people are alike, but we go through the same things as someone else in this world so that we grow, find common ground and then learn from each other. Open your eyes to the way you perceive things and be willing to change it if it's not working out for you. Give it a shot, I believe your life will change as you find favor with God for doing his will for you.
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